I think the world is ending. Most people would agree with me. And although the right approach would be to take this meaning literally, I chose to apply deeper context to this piece. The world I am referring to is inside and not the outer physical matter we can see or touch. The world I am referring to is the force that is within each and every person individually. Before any further elaborations on this I would like to emphasise that ...I am a young woman who was born in the wrong damn century, yes I said it. Things would have been much different for me had I been born in let’s say the seventies. But I wasn’t, and so I would like to emphasize my distress in this regard. For the simple fact that I was planted in this day and age where respect is an unknown term, especially to women. I am greatly embarrassed to say that I am not a hardcore feminist; in fact, in arguments I am probably the joker in the corner listening patiently to the conversation with little or no input. And with many factors attributing to this, I would like to state that Society cannot possibly take all the blame. Note I said not all the blame, but maybe a good favourable amount of it.
Growing up I was raised to be polite , look pretty , wake up early to clean because one had to be self sufficient for the sake of finding a husband. Growing up in an African family I was told many theories on what would stop me from getting married, for example not sweeping the dirt out on time, or leaving the cooking spoon in the pot. As if dust, those dirty brown particles, would be the defining matter of my marital status. Growing up, I was around males, who got away with pretty much anything because of the thing that is between their legs. I will not waste time talking about what happened in-between , as I feel that is for another time, another article , but in my experience, mothers the world over have failed. MOTHERS THE WORLD OVER HAVE FAILED. I would like that to sink in. I completely blame them when it comes to their sons. I completely concur that different samples present different evidence, and maybe every single time you are the type of woman that has met the perfect guy and what not. But that sample pool is a very small one to take into consideration at this very moment.
I would sum it up like this, majority of the boys that are raised by these women are coddled and not raised to be responsible men. Responsibility is not treating women like sex machines, and I see some of you eyeballing us and saying “Well, you ask for it by being naked in videos and movies and what not”. That there is justification in your swopping women around like we are flavoured gum. Which as we all know is thrown into the trash when it has ceased to be important. If some of you are in that mindset I would like to applaud you, for being downright ignorant. The female body is evidently too complex for you to comprehend; It is not made solely to satisfy the appetites of men who know only to use the hogs between their legs. It is a masterpiece that houses a brain. I decline to classify it as a home simply because that is not where a woman’s worth comes from. To think otherwise is to promote the notion that intelligence is the equivalent of Education. I have seen the life through both sides , where women are committed for years and then left to dry out because they aren’t “good enough” anymore, where women compete because men have declared the field , a sort of “wrestling” arena, but more importantly where men have proven to be manipulative creatures to get sex.
Which takes me back to the line “Mothers the world over have failed.”I would once again like to emphasize that they could not have possibly had any female contact, for one cannot love any woman when under the intent to exploit her feelings or to hurt her. Some of you may be saying “But I love my mother not that girl Tasha from the block, everyone has been with her”. And to you I say, your mother is a woman, she is not exempt from the network of people you call out of their names , nor is your sister, your maid or anyone who in possession of a vagina. What you are creating is a cycle culture, where girl meets boy, boy screws her over and then the cycle repeats. It destroys important elements and introduces a fragile mindset to those who need it the most, women. For it is women who are meant to raise these men and continue the cycle.
I write this in an angry tone, if you hadn’t noticed, not as a man hating feminist but an angry man loving enthusiast who has had enough of bad behaviour. We are not toys, we are not beings placed on this earth for your pleasure. We are not replaceable , nor are we rateable, So dish out fives under the notion that all you can do is count. And more importantly do please return to your mothers to learn a few manners. Manners and Values.
by Victoria Dube
by Victoria Dube
